and no. a soul mate isn’t your perfect fit. a soul mate is the person who doesn’t fit perfect because he wasn’t created only to appease you. a soul mate is a person who teams up with you to fill in all the cracks.
“People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.
A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave.
A soul mates purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life, then introduce you to your spiritual master…”
Elizabeth Gilbert (via kushandwizdom)
this is stupid. one of the things that annoys me about tumblr is this penchant to grasp on to this “beautiful tragedy” thing, as well as finding quotes we think are well worded and adopt it as gospel. a soul mate? a true soul mate? is whatever we define for ourselves. what about a true soul mate requires the sole purpose of brutal truth? we can’t consider that just a person who reflected back a reality you needed to see at that moment in that place of life?
this quote is from eat, pray, love. that’s good. “everything i know about relationships i learned from a paperback i bought at the airport”. it’s cool to muse about the idea of a soul mate. it’s obnoxious to decide it categorically isn’t one thing, and only the other.
and real love is not a man who speaks less and listens more, or the first person you think of when you wake up or the one who, on the other side of the world, can feel your heart skip a beat, or the girl that will slough off all of her skin to show she loves you.
stop it tumblr. that shit is for middle schoolers. life isn’t a simple turn of phrase.
do you even think, bro?
things i needed to hear in health class:
- puberty might make you squishier and its ok
- vaginas have a smell and it’s a ok
- all kinds of people with all kinds of bodies have gr8 sex
- genitals do not all look the same and variety is rad
- people have stretch marks sometimes
- people have pimples on their butts sometimes
- people have cellulite sometimes
- gender =/= sex
- sex =/= scary danger FEAR
- bodies aren’t scary or gross or sacred
- everything is ok